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To cuff or not to cuff, that is the question.  I know, it sounds corny to jack an already overly jacked Shakespeare line, but it’s the first thing that comes to mind when it comes to this time of year:  CUFFING SEASON!

For those of you who don’t know what “Cuffing Season” is, it is the time of year when it seems everyone wants to grab a “cuddle buddy” or get “boo’ed up,” as they say.  According to the Urban Dictionary, during the fall and winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves, along with the rest of the world, desiring to be “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.

You see, you may think you are “hot and heavy” with a new love interest or may be excited that your old flame came back into your life.  But you may need to be aware, it could be a seasonal thing and you could be single again – very soon!

So now that you know what it is, are you ready to be used for a little bit?

While you know you are most likely a “temporary fix” to get that “temporary significant other” through the holidays, do you set yourself up to be ditched at a not-so-distant date or do you enjoy the cuddling for what it is at the moment?  It is easy to say you won’t get caught up, but let’s face it, sex during Cufffing Season is probably some of the best sex you may get all year.  That’s why we get so crazy when it’s all over in the spring. (LOL)

Think about it.  The holiday season already makes us feel “all warm and fuzzy” inside and, after being paraded around in front of his or her family members, you feel even closer to the person you’re with.  What the family fails to say when you are getting the warm greetings and handshakes is that they know you might not make it to Easter.  But nonetheless, you are savoring every moment and loving every minute of it.

After the great family dinners, holiday work parties and meet-and-greets, the two of you go home to one of your warm beds and let’s just say—shoot fireworks so high into the air that they can be seen all the way to the North Pole.

Ahhhh, that Cuffing Season is something to behold!  Those special moments together are filled with bliss and your love is as carefree as running through the trees.

One indicator of how long you may or may not last is the Christmas present.  Trust me, if you’re nothing but a holiday “cuff,” expect perfume or cologne, my dear.  When someone knows they are not going to keep you around too long, they are not about to shell out any significant amount of dough.  Sorry, that’s just the way it is!  No blue-box surprise from Tiffany’s and you better not even think about Jared’s!  In fact, it may be best to just turn the channel when the commercials come on because you know “you ain’t about that life!”   And it ain’t about you!

People need to feel a connection to something or someone at a time when the world tells them they are “supposed to.” So, what do they do?  They try to grab onto someone who they wouldn’t mind (one day) settling down with (but they just aren’t ready right now) to make themselves feel something real. When Bobby Womack sings “When it’s cold outside, who are you holding,” we all know exactly what he’s talking about.  We all need someone to hold, to give us that deep burn in the pits of our stomachs, even if it is all a damn lie.

It’s the heat of the sheets, the soft touch of the lips, the sweat from the bodies connecting — and it happens over and over and over again—for just a few short months.  So what do you do?  Do you take it for what it’s worth, do you still aim to rope him or her in with hopes of making that “true love” connection or do you prepare yourself for the fact that you may not make it to Valentine’s Day?

It’s a risk that singles take every day.  Not knowing if the other person has true intentions or not.  No one wants to be used.  But you can’t always waste your time worrying and wondering about the “what ifs,” and you just may have to take the chance.

I say enjoy it while it lasts…like little animals that store nuts for the winter…do the reverse and prepare for the dry season.  By the time the spring comes, the “Cuffing Season” romance will have ended and most of you will only be “getting lucky” from some anonymous hook-ups during some Spring Break vacation that you will be ashamed of later.

Hey, believe it or not, I am a hopeless romantic and I believe that true love is waiting for everyone one day.  But I am also a woman whose been burned by the “Cuff bug” and I am just here to tell ya, many of you will too.  But it will be OK.  Just know that your girl here warned ya in advance, so when the other shoe drops, just keep on stepping with your head held high.  Cuffing Season is in full swing, so keep those heads clear while you’re getting your groove on!