I spent a lot of time always “dolling myself up,” but somehow, I was painting the wrong picture. I often wondered if my “sexiness” was being confused with something a little more on the negative side, making men focus on my outside, instead of my inside.
So when I ran across this article on Dr. Drew’s Life Changers about what’s sexy vs. what’s slutty, it made me think twice of all the low-cut, skin-tight, hip-hugging articles of clothing in my closet. Mo matter how subtle I thought a little cleavage was, maybe I was sending out the wrong signals.
Dr. Drew‘s Lifechanger and VH 1’s “Tough Love” Master Matchmaker Steve Ward says “there are many women everywhere who waste a lot of time and money to look good for us. Apparently, many women can’t tell the difference between what we consider sexy and what we consider slutty.”
Here’s the problem: men aren’t helping you make the distinction any easier. Why? Because at the end of the night, it really doesn’t matter.
Most men take what they can get. Bringing a woman home to meet the parents is very different from taking a woman home to bed. We’ve been taught never to take a slutty woman seriously. This is all just a matter of perception, because sometimes even the sluttiest-looking women turn out to be quite prudish.
Here’s what looking slutty means to most men like me: It says, “I don’t have much self-respect and have to expose myself in order to attract a man. Value me for my appearance and worry about my character and personality traits later (if at all).”
Slutty is trying too hard. Sexy is natural. Slutty is over-exposure. Sexy is just enough. Women can be sexy and sophisticated, classy and intelligent: relationship-worthy. Slutty can not.
Sexy can actually be high maintenance or low maintenance.
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