ikeoma divine

Confessions of a Black Mother

In lieu of having two adult children, I've had time to go back and reconsider how I raised them. If I could do it over again, I would have been more emotionally available. My reason for not doing so was my previous belief that it would "weaken" them if they had gotten used to being treated a certain way and I knew this society would not treat them the same way. I wanted them to have "tough skin" so that they could survive. ... Read More...

Loving my ‘crown and glory’: Finding beauty in my own ‘nappiness’

When you grow up in a society that not only teaches you that hair equals beauty but "YOUR HAIR" is NOT beautiful, it sets you up to live a life of constantly trying to attain a power outside of yourself. In doing so, we miss one of life's most important messages: You came here with everything that you need to succeed, including your unique physical attributes. Here's my story about my "Big Chop."... Read More...