“To blow or not to blow” is NOT the question; but HOW OFTEN one blows is causing a bit of an internet controversy, thanks to the “wise” words of one of our favorite female comedians.
Niecy Nash, the former “booty” of “Reno 911 and current star of HBO’s “Getting On” says the key to a happy marriage involves a woman getting her knees dirty every day.
In an interview with Playboy, Nash explained how a little oral therapy keeps the divorce attorneys out of the equation. In her words, the key to a happy marriage is to “keep him fed and drained.” She talked about this naughty topic in her relationship book, “It’s Hard to Fight Naked” and was very candidwhen she laid it all out.
“What I say in the book is, ‘A BJ a day keeps the divorce attorney away’ and I say that because I feel like men are profoundly simplistic, which is the reason I wanted to call my book what I used as the title of chapter three, which is, “Stomach Full, Penis Empty: A Woman’s Guide to a Happy Marriage.” Keeping him fed and drained, you have no problem. We are really more complicated than they are and I think that women are more generous with oral sex because we nurture by nature. We want to be pleasing by nature, that’s in our DNA, so I think that a lot of the behavior we’re looking for sexually, you might have to educate your partner. Sometimes, men just assume they’re going to get it and you need to be like, ‘Give me mine. Ladies first.'”
“What’s so interesting is that [women are] more willing to have conversations about “Do you want to get married? Where do you see this relationship going? Do you want to have children?” than we are to ask, “What kind of sex do you like? What are you into there?” You know what I mean? And that’s a conversation that a lot of people dive into but if you’re going to be with someone for the rest of your life and they’re failing to meet your sexual needs is like doing a slow dance with death. We need to make sure we can meet right there in the middle. The best thing that could have ever happened to me, and I was so fearful when I did it, was I got my tubes tied and had a hysterectomy. It gives me and my husband a different liberty — we can do what we do anytime, anywhere, at a moment’s notice. So that’s a sidebar into my situation, but I can get the party started.”
Nash added that women need to feel free to tell their partner what they are seeking sexually.
“What’s so interesting is that [women are] more willing to have conversations about ‘Do you want to get married? Where do you see this relationship going? Do you want to have children?’ than we are to ask, ‘What kind of sex do you like? What are you into there?’ You know what I mean? And that’s a conversation that a lot of people dive into but if you’re going to be with someone for the rest of your life and they’re failing to meet your sexual needs is like doing a slow dance with death. We need to make sure we can meet right there in the middle. The best thing that could have ever happened to me, and I was so fearful when I did it, was I got my tubes tied and had a hysterectomy. It gives me and my husband a different liberty — we can do what we do anytime, anywhere, at a moment’s notice. So that’s a sidebar into my situation, but I can get the party started.”
All in all, Nash says we just need to all KEEP IT REAL. Men shouldn’t lie about what they are looking for upfront, and should not lead a woman on…and for women, they need to lay it out on the line when it comes to sex, their needs and relationships.
And of course, oral stimulation should always be on the “tip of the tongues.”
(Photo of Niecy Nash obtained from Wikimedia Commons)
